The struggle is real! Wedding planning isn’t always easy! As much as it’s fun, there’s also a lot of stress. From where to start, to what to do next, to tackling the never ending to do list, sometimes you just wish it was over already!
If you feel like your partner isn’t excited or involved in the wedding planning, this tip is for you.
You’re super stoked about the wedding and can’t wait to dive into the planning. Your partner isn’t as motivated, and it’s starting to put a damper on your spirits. More than anything, you want this wedding to be something you both do together, but you’re at your wit’s end trying to get your partner to be more involved. If you hear “whatever you want” one more time, you just might pull your hair out!
Here’s our Top 5 Tips to Get Your Partner Involved in the Planning Process
- Communicate. The first thing you need to do is come up with a clear vision of what you both want. Remove all expectations of what you think a wedding is supposed to be. Discuss your vision for the wedding. Nowadays there are no rules. You truly can do whatever you want. If you think it’s lame to have a receiving line, then don’t. Are you or your partner dreading family formals? Opt for candid photos instead. Define what your wedding looks like for the both of you.
- Compromise. Remember this wedding is about the two of you. If you want your partner to be more excited, then you really have to listen to what they want. If your partner is uncomfortable with something, it’s going to be hard for them to get excited. Be prepared to scrap an idea that doesn’t work for you both. At the same time, is there something that has special meaning to your partner? Would you be willing to make it happen for their happiness? When you’re supportive of each other’s ideas, you’ll create a meaningful experience for the both of you and hopefully this will go a long way in your partner’s willingness to be involved in the whole process.
- Personalize and plan a wedding that looks like the both of you. It’s easy to get caught up in your wedding vision, especially if it’s something you’ve imagined forever! Lavish flowers, pink tulle and white doves may have been your childhood dream, but it might not be a true reflection of who you are now, or who your partner is. This is a great opportunity to define your ‘together’ style.
- Divide up tasks based on your interests. One sure way, to get your partner fired about his or her’s roles, is to divide up tasks catered to you and your partner’s interests. If music is their jam, let them come up with the reception playlist. If he or she is all about signature cocktails, let them conjure up drink ideas for the reception. Designing color schemes and floral choices not your thing? Let your partner dive in!
- Ask for help. This is really just communication. We can’t stress it enough! Instead of letting yourself get overwhelmed, sometimes asking for your partner’s help is what’s needed. He or she may think that you’ve got this, but if you don’t, let them know! Alone you can only accomplish so much, but together you can accomplish so much more! If necessary, recruit help from your wedding party, family and friends, or hire a professional to step in where needed.
Keep things fun! Remember this is supposed to be a fun and exciting time. Sure, there is a lot to do, but there’s a time and place. If you’ve dedicated a wedding planning weekend to work through your to do list, take time out for a walk, or have a nice dinner as a reward for all your hard work! Better yet, plan frequent date nights and keep the romance alive.
I would love to hear from you in the comments. In what way is your partner is involved with the wedding planning?
Photo Credit: Crispin Cannon Photography.